"Which brings us to love. According to Sean Penn, he is a victim of love:
'There is no shame in my saying that we all want to be loved by
someone. As I look back over my life in romance, I don't feel I've ever
had that. I have been the only one that was unaware of the fraud in a
few of these circumstances blindly. When you get divorced, all the
truths that come out, you sit there and you go, What the fuck was I
doing? What was I doing believing that this person was invested in this
way? Which is a fantastically strong humiliation in the best sense. It
can make somebody very bitter and very hard and closed off, but I find
it does the opposite to me.'
He is presumably referring to Robin Wright. And if you take him at his
word, he was deceived into believing that she truly loved him, that she
was fully engaged in their relationship. Evidently, according to his
version of events, he was there, he was in it, he was the fool, he fell
for her “fraud”, and in the end, he was blindsided by her general,
overall lacking (noun). In the end, he finds her to have been lacking in
Replace Robin Wright with Katie Holmes and Sean Penn with Tom Cruise and it’s the same situation: megalomania.
Isn’t it always the ultimate narcissistic who believes that he did all
the giving and was never properly compensated? And the one who holds you
emotionally hostage during the relationship with all of his needing to
be loved? If you’ve ever been in this position, you know, it’s intensely
manipulative, and sometimes frighteningly so. This is a form of control
under the guise of need. He uses his need as power; his need makes him
RIGHT, and therefore the person who’s depriving him is WRONG, and he’ll
f-cking lord that over her for as long as possible."
(from this Lainey Gossip piece)
Here are two old post from abusive ex:
the beginning of my emotional valley, you counselled others to leave me
alone, even though I obviously wanted human interaction. I find it
hard to believe that you thought I wanted solitude, when almost the
entire union of our existences had been about sharing space with others.
But I gave you the benefit of the doubt, thinking that you must have
had my interests at heart, though you were misguided.
depths of that valley, I reached out to you. Much like I did the day in
my youth when I nearly drowned at the water park. A hand,
outstretched, grasping at anything to help keep me afloat. But the
outcomes were totally different. On that summer day my hand found a
raft, steered there by an unknown kid I will forever be grateful to.
When I reached out to you, you told me a raft was coming... but none
materialized. For two weeks, I waited expectantly for any signs, and
I didn't think it was that big of a request... a
couple of hours once a week. Something to break up the monotony of
living alone, being alone. I have pretty much reconciled myself to
never finding out what happened and why. Two weeks later, when you
approached me as though nothing had happened, I was dumbstruck. I
really couldn't believe that you would ignore me, ignore my plea, ignore
your agreement, but then act as though nothing had happened. I will
admit that I did not handle that night very well... Then again, there
have been entire years you have ignored me, since.
A number of
months later, I saw you reach out. You were in a similar situation, or
at least you seemed to be reaching from the same place I reached. So I
imagine that you know how I felt. I sincerely hope that the respondents
to your call did not ignore you.
It is a terrible feeling.
have been counselled to forgive you, but I cannot let this go yet. Not
without an apology and some acknowledgement. And maybe some time on
top of that. This cut too deep."
"I have some pretty high standards when it comes to those around me.
Part of that comes from how selfless I can be, myself. So when someone I
respect violates those standards, I feel hurt. My natural reaction is
to remove that person from the position where they could hurt me. So I
shove away many people because of mistakes, oversights, or just plain
not caring about me as much as I'd hope they would.
to a lonely existence, but one where the few interactions I have are
rich and full. However, it cannot lead to a sense of camaraderie which,
almost by definition, includes many others."
Ugh, I need a shower.